Did you join a support group? Or have family or friends who supported you through the divorce? I found this chat-room looking for a support group. I am not hugely religious and the only support groups available seem to be via churches.

I have been married almost 20 years and want a divorce. Is it normal to be terrified to take that step? I just don't know how to. I feel like a terrible person, but I just can't anymore. I feel so lonely and unhappy in my marriage. I don't want to hurt my kids and I am afraid of what friends will say and do. How long do I have to be on my own before I can go on a date without been labelled a "slut". At what point do you choose yourself over what seems to be "the right thing to do". I am only just realizing now how isolated I am in my marriage. I feel like I should have at least one or two close girl friends who can help me though this. How is it that I have no close friends? I've just never had any friends that my husband approved of. How does one start making friends after 40years of age? If anyone has any advice about taking that initial step, please help.

I was with my Ex husband for over 27years. Separated for about 3 years trying to see if we could make it work before finally divorcing. Before we divorced he had already started seeing someone else who he is still with and never told me about until they had been together for a year. It took him no time to move on and be happy with his life. Our 2 kids live with me and I support them completely with no assist from him. He doesn't offer it. I can't even imagine being with another person or being in a relationship. Still trying to figure myself out. I seriously struggle with the anger I feel towards him and don't know how to let it go. He's moved on like our marriage never happened and I can't figure out what to do with my life.