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This goes out to all the parents who've walked this road before. I'm a rookie to the high school hockey parent game and want some insight into what to expect. My kid plays for a large public high school with a solid middle-of-the-pack hockey program and so far my kid seems to have been placed fairly. Maybe I'm naïve, but I thought once you reached JV and Varsity hockey there were no politics involved; no daddy coaches, etc. Now I'm hearing rumor that there can be boosters and parents somehow involved in roster decisions. Is this speculation and sour grapes or is there some truth to it? Are there other factors involved at this late stage in the game besides the best kids being selected?
Bottom line is your screwed! Politics, butt kissers, money, play a huge roll. The ONLY thing that will save you is your kid being the best on the ice every shift. Give the coach no other options but to play him. Good luck. Wish I had more advice but it is that simple.
It really is a joke. My kids high school coach is "affiliated" with a 1/2 season club program. Every kid that plays for that club, including mine, made Varsity and gets lots of ice. There happens to be a kid who doesn't play for that club team who is significantly better than many of the club kids, including mine, and he is relegated to the third line. It is a shame but welcome to the gong show.
The best kids are going to play at 99% of the schools. Issue is parents all think their kids are first liners. As with all the teams the 4th line kids could be swapped out for any kids on JV but may be taken on team because they have a role or are a good kid compared to the others. As coaches say "the only parents that like me are the 5 kids starting on the ice - the other 20 parents think their kid should be on the 1st line".
I think politics are more or less with kids that are bubble players in which they are going to see limited ice time. If you can play and stand out you will be on the team and a key contributor.
Our d1 public coach puts the kids that can win games on the ice at least in his eyes. The top 2 lines get most of the ice.
This post has to be from a parent that never played a sport in their life. Not compete to win a championship??? Are you a soccer mom too. You should petition MIAA to not keep score or standings for all sports. Youth hockey is a place to play with your friends. High school hockey is where the coaches put the best players on the ice in order to give the team the best opportunity to succeed. There is always JV for your little star.
The reply "I'm sorry but MIAA should be for the kids to enjoy playing with their buddies, go to Prep or Full Season if you are in it to win championships." says all you need to know about the downward spiral of this country.
Sorry, you are the only one on this thread that believes there is no politics in high school hockey. You lose with your bad attitude. No politics? Get outta here.
At no point should a parent have any conversations with a high school coach. Thats for youth hockey. 9th grade and you teach your son or daughter to discuss any issues they have with the coach. Its called growing up.
My son went to an ISL Keller school for 4 years and played one year of JV and three on varsity. He was not recruited and walked on by just showing up at tryouts. He was full - pay tuition, for the record.
I was one of those parents who believed their son was getting less water and sunshine from the coach than he deserved compared to the other flowers on the bench. I believed it was "politics" but obviously as has been proven here on the D-Board, there is tremendous subjectivity involved. As such, my assertion could never be proven. But towards the end of my son's career at his prep school something interesting happened.
The team had a blue-chip defenseman in his junior year who had a commitment to a top 10 nationally ranked Division I hockey school. This player earned top ice on special teams, full strength, key situations, etc., all season long. With about 5 games left in the season, this golden boy announced to the team (and coach) he would not be returning the following year to pursue a Junior Hockey opportunity (I wont say where).
For the last 5 games this player, who had clearly distinguished himself all season long, suddenly became the 7th defenseman off the bench. It seemed that the coach felt slighted, and decided to sacrifice the idea of maximizing the teams chances of winning the last 5 games by keeping this kid off the ice.
Politics? YOU BET! Meritocracy totally out the window....
These events confirmed my personal instincts for the past 3 years that the coach let his feelings/ego affect his decision making.
This is an interesting take. Will be interesting to see what coaches do next year at the prep level. Many kids left campus. left teammates, left coaches to play in other leagues. Next year, will these kids be welcomed back after abandoning everyone. What happened to there is no "I" in team? Some will say they left with coaches approval but it still wont sit well with coaching staffs and more importantly teammates. Time will tell.
The question is Not whether the player made the right move to leave prep for the following season, clearly he is within his rights to most fully optimize his hockey career, including leaving high school after his 11th grade year to play on a Juniors hockey team.
The Question to me worth pondering, specifically relating to "politics", is how egregiously wrong is the coaches decision to "bench" the kid after the player announced that this year would be his last at the school? There was virtual universal agreement that this player was the number 1 defenseman on the team.
The vaunted meritocracy myth was shattered by the coaches maneuver....
In my opinion a good coach would have left the line up unaffected, regardless of how much the player's decision angered the coach.
1st. I don’t believe coach benched the kid. Player’s future success will be direct reflection on prep coach and program. 2nd. If kid is not one of top 5 or 6 players on a high school team, he sucks!
At the high school level, you as a parent, shouldn't be talking to a HS coach about where and what your kid should be doing on the ice. Your kid is the one who should be doing all the talking. You're saying its not politics, but by you speaking to the coach, its all about politics. You just don't get that.
If you say so. Folks, stay away from high school coaches such as this one. Their decision making is based in parental input and not talent.
Your parents spoke to the coach twice a year, totally acceptable. Today, the coaches are getting texts on the bench during games when little Johnny misses a shift.
"There's are no politics in high school hockey" Easily wins this year's dumbest quote of the year award. We are still giving this out right?
I love it when these neanderthal coaches have offspring and then miraculously their kid is on the top line and are held to no accountability as a freshman. Sorry, your kid has a bad attitude. But my kid, my kid is the best. He never makes a mistake.