What are your son's ambitions in terms of hockey? Usually, the top kids in their age groups who want to pursue high-level college hockey aren't worried about getting buried in a lineup at a top hockey prep school that actively recruits them. They're confident they can go earn their top six/top four minutes. If you're son is more of a solid player who wants to get a good education, play the highest level of high school hockey he can for 3-4 years, and then hopefully earn a few college and/or junior hockey opportunities afterwards, it probably makes sense to go to the prep school where you think he is going to play the most. If he develops into a top prep player, it's not going to matter what school he plays for. The "BBN vs. Nobles" framework is seems like a good one for you to consider. Both good day schools. Nobles is a hockey power. BBN can barely hang with them. Playing hockey at BBN type school could be a great experience for your kid, he just might not win a lot of games...
If all things are equal he will have a better experience where he is playing the most. Being on a team with limited ice time can take away from the overall experience. Send them where they will be happiest.
BBN could not hang with a good d1 public
Op here. Never did I say bb and n and never would I send my kid there!