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When do they say they had enough

What is the age kids usually stop playing?
Please share your stories.
My boy is pee wee major. He still wants it. I think?

Re: When do they say they had enough

Doesn't really matter what age other boys say they're done. Every kid is different.

From what I've observed, the biggest drop off years are between Bantam Minor and Major, and between Freshman and Sophomore years.

The former is when the reality that it's a physical game set in. They go through their first year of checking, but they don't enjoy it.

The second is when the reality that they will probably never make Varsity hits them.

What I'd suggest YOU do is make sure your son understands that you are going to support him either way, but that when he says he's done, that you will understand. He has to know that he is playing the sport for himself, not because he thinks his mom or dad will be disappointed.

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Also, when they are in high school competing against kids 3 or 4 years older for the first time!

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Anon
Doesn't really matter what age other boys say they're done. Every kid is different.

From what I've observed, the biggest drop off years are between Bantam Minor and Major, and between Freshman and Sophomore years.

The former is when the reality that it's a physical game set in. They go through their first year of checking, but they don't enjoy it.

The second is when the reality that they will probably never make Varsity hits them.

What I'd suggest YOU do is make sure your son understands that you are going to support him either way, but that when he says he's done, that you will understand. He has to know that he is playing the sport for himself, not because he thinks his mom or dad will be disappointed.


Awesome post

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when they finally realize that they are benders and they suck

Re: When do they say they had enough

Sounds like you've got some experience with that?

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I'm told by people with more experience in youth hockey than I that when checking starts is the big moment for most kids. My son is entering first year PW and still very much up for it. We'll see in two years.

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It's not a big deal. The parents are more worried than the kids and unless your kid is an absolute cupcake he'll be able to handle it. They should have kept it at Peewees as the size difference isn't so large then.

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anon
It's not a big deal. The parents are more worried than the kids and unless your kid is an absolute cupcake he'll be able to handle it. They should have kept it at Peewees as the size difference isn't so large then.


Yes, how ridiculous is it that they start to check in the years where the differential in size is greatest? At no other point in their development will there be that much disparity in size between players. IMO, they should check in squirts and above at the Tier 1 level (EHF Elite and E9). Wait until bantam for the Tier 2 leagues.

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Agree. The whole 'the need to delay checking because the brain isn't developed enough' seems silly compared to 'let's delay checking until some kids are 6'4" 210lbs. and some kids are 5'2" 95lbs.'

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anon
It's not a big deal. The parents are more worried than the kids and unless your kid is an absolute cupcake he'll be able to handle it. They should have kept it at Peewees as the size difference isn't so large then.
You said the same thing a couple of weeks ago. It still doesn't make it so.

It is a reality that kids leave the sport because of checking. Of course they don't come out and say it, they say they just lost interest, or they like X better. Maybe they are encouraged to do so by their parents, which would align better with your statement. I can't climb inside their family dynamic. But deep down, they lost their passion for the sport because they were undersized kids that didn't want to get hit.

That may not be your reality, it may not align with your opinion, but that doesn't mean it isn't others'.

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Anon
anon
It's not a big deal. The parents are more worried than the kids and unless your kid is an absolute cupcake he'll be able to handle it. They should have kept it at Peewees as the size difference isn't so large then.
You said the same thing a couple of weeks ago. It still doesn't make it so.

It is a reality that kids leave the sport because of checking. Of course they don't come out and say it, they say they just lost interest, or they like X better. Maybe they are encouraged to do so by their parents, which would align better with your statement. I can't climb inside their family dynamic. But deep down, they lost their passion for the sport because they were undersized kids that didn't want to get hit.

That may not be your reality, it may not align with your opinion, but that doesn't mean it isn't others'.


After a few weeks where they see kids aren't being hauled off the ice in body bags they all learn to deal with it. Not low level kids but the better players deal with it. Like was mentioned, the cupcakes do fade away but there aren't too many elite cupcakes.

Re: When do they say they had enough

Anon
It is a reality that kids leave the sport because of checking.


while the timing fits that is not the case. notice they moved checking from mite to peewee to bantam and yet the age of leaving has not changed. why? around age 11-14 children start expressing their independence. you can no longer 'order' them to play a sport. yes, you can get them there and they will go on the field/rink, but --- there is little/no effort or they always seem to 'forget' something. eventually the parents realize its not worth the expense and constant battle to get them in the car.

this is more obvious in HS with captains practices, off-season teams and the actual grind of the (in) season.

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anon
It's not a big deal. The parents are more worried than the kids and unless your kid is an absolute cupcake he'll be able to handle it. They should have kept it at Peewees as the size difference isn't so large then.


Having been through it with my two older boys, I'd have to say checking is a actually a pretty big deal and is one of the major reasons kids drop out or get left behind. Some kids just don't take to the physical game. Compare the rosters of your programs top Bantam minor age team from last year with this years top Bantam major age team and you'll probably see a pretty big turnover. D-men who won't take the body or can't clear out the front of the next, and forwards who won't go into corners or give the puck up when someones breathing down their neck usually get replaced with kids that have comparable skills but can also play the physical game.

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Anon
anon
It's not a big deal. The parents are more worried than the kids and unless your kid is an absolute cupcake he'll be able to handle it. They should have kept it at Peewees as the size difference isn't so large then.


Having been through it with my two older boys, I'd have to say checking is a actually a pretty big deal and is one of the major reasons kids drop out or get left behind. Some kids just don't take to the physical game. Compare the rosters of your programs top Bantam minor age team from last year with this years top Bantam major age team and you'll probably see a pretty big turnover. D-men who won't take the body or can't clear out the front of the next, and forwards who won't go into corners or give the puck up when someones breathing down their neck usually get replaced with kids that have comparable skills but can also play the physical game.

this is spot on

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Usually this is all wishful thinking from the Dads of the big, slow players. In the end it is skating. Skating, skating, skating that separates players. If big blubber boy can't keep up to the pace of the game he will quickly fade away. Sad but true.

Re: When do they say they had enough

anon
Usually this is all wishful thinking from the Dads of the big, slow players. In the end it is skating. Skating, skating, skating that separates players. If big blubber boy can't keep up to the pace of the game he will quickly fade away. Sad but true.


A lot of truth to this but skating and size is the best of both worlds. You see plenty of tiny kids zipping through mites and squirts that you just know will be gone when the kids start to grow.

Re: When do they say they had enough

anon
Usually this is all wishful thinking from the Dads of the big, slow players. In the end it is skating. Skating, skating, skating that separates players. If big blubber boy can't keep up to the pace of the game he will quickly fade away. Sad but true.
Geez, you posted this the last time the topic came up, too.

Let me predict your next post - there are only 2 - 3 impact checks per game.

Re: When do they say they had enough

Anon
anon
Usually this is all wishful thinking from the Dads of the big, slow players. In the end it is skating. Skating, skating, skating that separates players. If big blubber boy can't keep up to the pace of the game he will quickly fade away. Sad but true.
Geez, you posted this the last time the topic came up, too.

Let me predict your next post - there are only 2 - 3 impact checks per game.


We have a lot of one trick ponies on the Dboard.

Re: When do they say they had enough

Anon
Anon
anon
Usually this is all wishful thinking from the Dads of the big, slow players. In the end it is skating. Skating, skating, skating that separates players. If big blubber boy can't keep up to the pace of the game he will quickly fade away. Sad but true.
Geez, you posted this the last time the topic came up, too.

Let me predict your next post - there are only 2 - 3 impact checks per game.


We have a lot of one trick ponies on the Dboard.


Either that or it's just the same 5 people posting over and over again.

Re: When do they say they had enough

Anon
Anon
anon
Usually this is all wishful thinking from the Dads of the big, slow players. In the end it is skating. Skating, skating, skating that separates players. If big blubber boy can't keep up to the pace of the game he will quickly fade away. Sad but true.
Geez, you posted this the last time the topic came up, too.

Let me predict your next post - there are only 2 - 3 impact checks per game.


We have a lot of one trick ponies on the Dboard.


So the games you go to have 8-9 stoppage of play to take kids off of the ice? Rubbing a kid out along the boards is not considered an 'impact check'...well maybe if your fat lumbering kid is delivering the 'blow' it is.

The guy is right, the dads with the kids that can't skate are all sitting there saying 'wait until checking starts, it will alllll change' and then it happens and 3-4 weeks into it no one (even the dad's of the fat kids) cares.

I've had two kids that went through it including one that was a late December kid and it's no big deal.

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The guy is right.

You can be a very good skater and small and still play; You can be a very good skater and large and still play; You can not be a below average skater and small and play; You can not be a below average skater and large and play.

The big slow kids become a total non-factor.