Good Point but you have to remember the loudest people on this board or in any organization are the minority.If a majority really felt the same way, there would be very few organizatons.
Pick any team, and the sport itself is too expensive for 40% of the families. Those same 40% are the ones constantly complaining, talking behind everyones back, and stiring the pot whenever able, but they feel it is their right due to the $$$$ they spend and sacrifices they make.
That 40% also drinks heavily, pays more for every clinic possbile and even seeks out other teams to play with, and then contintues to complain about the $$$. Its sad to watch.
Deep topic for a Monday morning. Not all parents are wrong, not all coaches are wrong and USA Hockey isn't an issue (except for the decision to delay checking to Bantams).
In 10 plus years with 3 kids, I generally find it's the parents that are the problem and fall into two categories:
1) the absolute crazy ass parent who has had too much caffeine and should be banned from all rinks (less than 10%)
2) the parents who didn't bother to do their homework before signing with a team
I truly believe you can't fix parents in the first category but don't worry, they tend to wear out their welcome after a season or two. You know these guys because by the time their kid is a bantam, the kids has played in six or more programs and eventually ends up on a team he doesn't belong on because dear old dad has ensured the programs that are a better fit won't touch him.
Category two parents sign on with a program because they are Elite, Premier, Select, or a coach because he played hockey at (insert any name you want) but never bothered to look at the program, the team or how a person coaches. I would guess that even the most leveled headed of all hockey parents has done this at least once. You get there and the coach might have played at BC but doesn't know how to work with Squirts or the program only offers skills once or twice per month with 50 players to 1 instructor. Inevitably you start to bash the coach or the program but if you had done your homework, would you have agreed to play here in the first place?
Once you realize that coaching is more important than labels, you do your homework. You go to a game or two and attend a few skates before even deciding if you want to have your kid tryout for a team. You have learned your lesson and probably gained some perspective into what your child needs.
The great thing about the expansion of select hockey over the last 20 years is that is gives all of us a chance, if we want to put in a little effort, to find the right combination of program, team, coach to ensure that our children can develop to their maximum potential. Besides, if it wasn't watered down, most of our kids would be playing town.
What are parents supposed to do if their isn't a consistent assistant coach at games? Sometimes 1 assistant, sometimes 3?
Watch the game, thank whoever helped out, ask jr if he had fun and then go out for lunch.... the number of assistant coaches should not change a thing. Worried about the number of assistant coaches? Seriously?
Do your homework and find a better situation for next season. This season, just keep quiet, make nice with everyone and enjoy it as best you can. It is strange to me that, on the whole, we parents spend more time researching the purchase of a $1,000 washing machine than we do the teams we put our kids on.
A couple of really good posts on this thread. Nice work fellas.
must be all town hockey parents on this thread. to much common sense!
You sir haven't got a clue. I bet you micromanage your entire family too.
Coach is always right.
Now that their is a way to track IP address its funny that a few of theses guys play on the same team in CT.
Actually your ignorance to the fact that most coaches would take those opportunities to get his or her players learning to pay attention the ENTIRE game, even when on the bench, and you when coach says "change it up", they actually, you know, hop over those boards and go on for their shift while the others are coming off. It's not rocket science. It's not difficult. You don't "Need" an adult to open a freaking door. Kids as young as squirts can do that. Parents like you raising kids like this who cant do a **** thing for themselves is actually what is wrong with this world right now. Hockey isn't about JUST playing and teaching the game of hockey, there is a life lesson in every single sheet of ice. No one should be afraid or concerned because their child has had the opportunity to learn a new aspect of the game they are playing.