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Everyone continues to talk about finding a good coach and sticking with him. After this season I am not sure what exactly a good coach is.
My kids team has the best practices I have seen at his age level, few years ago, when making decision on team we practiced with teams all over the state. High Tempo, fast paced, kids are accountable and without question developing.
My kids team is successful in games most of the time. The coaches son, who is one of the best players on the team is clearly getting more opportunities then anyone else in big moments. When the game is on the line, the son stops playing a team game and is the only one given the chance to play "hero".
All of the parents know whats going on and there are of course rumblings of this person or that one leaving because of it.
So my son is developing with what I think is one of the best development coaches out there in practice, but he along with 80% of his team is continually being overlooked in big moments of a game, which is affecting his confidence and overall enjoyment. Is it just about on-ice skill development? or should a good coach also develop team chemistry and have concern about his players psyche.
a good coach is a daddy coach that never played the game and can't stand up on skates .....
Everyone is going to define this differently but for me, a good coach:
1) Helps my son develop on the ice
2) Holds him accountable for his actions
3) Mesh's with his personality
4) Can communicate with the parents when necessary
It sounds like you have a coach you like for 42 minutes per game. Honestly, you can use it as a teaching moment if you are so inclined. Not about how "life is unfair, deal with it" but how he can't let things he has no control over impact his play during games or enjoyment of the game.
I have no idea how old your son is but fast forward to high school, he makes Varsity one day but is a fourth line winger, so he gets maybe six minutes per game. He'll have to earn more ice through his limited playing time, if he loses his confidence because he doesn't get more time, he'll start to have some real issues.
So if you like this coach, he's great at developing kids, has helped your son, etc., I would call him a good coach and stick with him.
I agree with previous poster. Sounds like you are in a better spot than 90 percent of people. You hit all the right characteristics except treat all of the kids equitably with only a slight preference for your son (I think it's unrealistic to expect complete equity).