Haha, if someone's kid gave up hockey and they are still here, I'd say we should be asking other questions of that person.
This isn't China, no one child only rule, ya douche.
To me the two biggest contributing factor to the long-term success of a player is, 'does he love the game' and does the kid play with confidence.
My oldest son liked the game because he is good at playing the game, he hardly sent the vibe that he loved it. I always got the feeling he was just O.K. with it. Did he spend his waking hours thinking about it? Nope. Did he rush to the T.V. to turn the Bruins on? No, he would hardly watch them even when the TV in the room had them on.
Did he play with confidence? Not really in my opinion. He was always the youngest kid on every team he played on through youth hockey and he often was the smallest until he was 16-17 years old. Over the years older teams would often talk him into playing an age or two higher in tournaments which made it even worse.
He made it through with his skill, skating, smarts and size....So this year as a college sophomore at a pretty good school he has told me he's giving it up and focusing on academics. Maybe I should have seen it coming much earlier but it's his choice and I'm good with it.
Look, not every kid is cut out to be an athlete. I mean an athlete when the game gets difficult and training is a necessity, not youth sports where the objective is fun and games and there is very little competition for playing time. I see a lot of decent young hockey players that I suspect won't play through high school because they just don't have the natural ability. At a certain point you need to be able to make plays and compete harder than the next guy.
And to the tough guy, it has very little to do with checking. The same thing happens at 13 in every sport. Kids reach their high water mark and are passed by, get frustrated, see the writing on the wall, and lose interest. You just hope the parent has given them enough balance in their pre-teen years that they quickly find something else that they can dedicate their time and talents to, and it's not a family crisis when the kid stops playing.
Thanks for the clarification and epxlaiantion for him !
But I really appreciate his response driving my point home !
I was referring to his post that of all the reasons he mentioned he never mentioned or even imagined it could be because of him.
The response is priceless, the zero % comment just shows me that after reading my post you still could not even fathom that I was referring to the fact that it could be because of you he decides to quit !
Take the blinders off, because if you cannot even realize that was what I was referring to, the odds are that he already has given you several indications he does not want to play as much as you believe !
The hockey season is 30 weeks long. Your kids team is skating 3 nights a week. Now add in the 40 games, give or take, that Jr's team is playing during the course of the season. That's 130 car rides to and 130 car rides from the rink per kid, per season. (You folks that go all in on the summer teams and tournaments can do your own math.) If you don't know when your kid is nearing the end of his or her hockey road, then you've obviously had a lot of missed spent car rides.
You better not let him quit or he's gonna have someone's **** in his mouth before you can say Jack Robinson.