Coaching is key. my kids team is about 500. Parents all get along, kids are developing. No drama. You would think people would be trying their hardest to get their kid on the team.
As a coach, if your priority really is development, then you want to be a .500 team. You want to play games that are really challenging but also have those games that build confidence. You want most of your schedule to push the kids. If a team is so stacked they're winning by 7 goals every game those kids are not really being allowed to fail- and failure is where growth and development happen.
Find a good coach and stick with him! I can't tell you how many parents ruined their kids reputations by hopping from program to program trying to pick up 3 more wins on the season or "get in" with a certain crowd. Kids will develop more with the same coach over 3 or 4 years than with 3 or 4 different coaches. That same coach knows what your kid can and can't do and if he's good, will keep introducing things that challenge him, and keep ramping up the skills from year to year.
I've always thought the kids make the program more than the program makes the kids. They all offer just about the same thing, there's no magic dust being sprinkled at any of these rinks. The best teams are where the talent settles, for whatever reason...coach, recruiting, rink location, luck.
You are correct, on paper they all offer roughly the same thing but in action they can differ greatly. For example: Skills. A program might say they have an outside instructor running skills but then you watch it and realize it's nothing more than an outside guy blowing a whistle while the coaches hang out on the ice drinking dunk's. No correction being offered, no guidance to the skaters..no development.
In my world, the right coach is the #1 thing I look for but skills is #2.
The problem with looking at the neighbors green grass with envy is unless you are invited into their yard, you may not realize that the grass is just green painted cow patties until you buy the lot.
I\'ve always thought the kids make the program more than the program makes the kids. They all offer just about the same thing, there\'s no magic dust being sprinkled at any of these rinks. The best teams are where the talent settles, for whatever reason...coach, recruiting, rink location, luck.
You are correct, on paper they all offer roughly the same thing but in action they can differ greatly. For example: Skills. A program might say they have an outside instructor running skills but then you watch it and realize it's nothing more than an outside guy blowing a whistle while the coaches hang out on the ice drinking dunk's. No correction being offered, no guidance to the skaters..no development.
In my world, the right coach is the #1 thing I look for but skills is #2.
The problem with looking at the neighbors green grass with envy is unless you are invited into their yard, you may not realize that the grass is just green painted cow patties until you buy the lot.
Prior poster here and I agree with you. There are clubs that offer a weekly skills session on weekends that kids almost never make because of games. I find the off ice training offerings vary widely as well. But the teams offering the best "fringe" benefits are not always the ones highest in the standings, which lends further credence to my point.