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Here is a little insight from the other side.
Lots of the posts are spot on. Cant paint all tryouts with the same brush, as coaches and individual teams have different needs and different styles.
I can tell you this. If i had communication (I initiated the communication) with a family prior to tryout and told that family to come to tryout it was a done deal that I was taking that kid.
If i had a family reach out to me (they initiated communication) I would have an honest communication of what are needs are (ie - everyone is coming back but one and there are one or two spots available). If I knew the kid and family and I knew they would not make the team I would be honest. I tell them that I have had a few kids who are interested in those spots that would be ahead of your kid. If these kids came to tryouts I would contact them within a few days and tell them that I didn't have room and in some cases help and facilitate their transition to another team or program.
If I had a family show up that I personally know at tryouts with no prior communication that didn't have a chance of making team I would contact them and tell them and also help facilitate a transition elsewhere. I owe them that contact as I know them and will see them in the future.
If someone shows up at tryouts, I don't know them, and have had no communication either before during or after tryouts, then they fond out they didn't make it by never hearing from me.
You guys forget that they tryout info states that you will be contacted by the team if awarded a spot, it does not, at least in our case, say that we will contact you if you didn't make it. In fact it specifically states that you will be contacted within 48 hours if you have been selected.
remember, a coach owes you nothing if you randomly show up at a tryout. Just like the family owes the team or coach nothing in this situation.
I have had a coach reach out to me in January to bring my kid skate with the team, showed interest, said come to tryouts and then blindsided us by not taking him... No one got contracts before tryouts, just verbal commitments, some were valid, others not.... If you do not sign a player agreement (or electronically register these days) before tryouts - go to any and all tryouts because you may not be on the team. Many a kid has been burned by a bad communicating coach...
Hi "Other side",
Are you talking mostly younger kids like 12U and under or older? I ask because I see a lot of reaching out and communicating for second year mite through pee wee but it seems like a lot of kids randomly try out for U15, U16, etc. randomly and there is more movement given all the half year teams, high school, etc.
You are somewhat correct. I have stuck with the same process through u 16, u18, and even tournament teams though.
The communication is not as important at the older ages. As most parents and kids don’t have the anxiety associated with the younger years. And they self awareness is sometimes a little better.
There are lots of teams and lists of movement in some cases at the older ages. Kids show up just to get ice or compare themselves to a certain team.
Kids start having influences from high school and prep coaches or people advising them, but at the end of the day the players and families have realized that the team isn’t important and as long as they are playing it’s fine, as most are doing skills outside the program or strength and conditioning elsewhere.
Basically the lack of communication at those older levels is either finally av wired by parents or not that concerning.
Don’t get me wrong. Coaches are still trying to finagle all the way through u18. I think my kid was invited to a dozen tryouts his 16 year.