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1. Tell yourself before every practice and every game this is about the kids. It is not an extension or reflection on your hockey legacy.
2. Make your kid work harder than every other kid on the team. This sets the expectation for the rest of the kids. This doesn’t mean screaming at your kid for making a mistake. There is a difference between a kid making a mistake when pushing themselves versus being lazy.
3. Control your temper on the bench. Volatile coaches make volatile players. If you chirp at a ref or another coach, you are absolutely telling the players they can too.
4. Control your temper on the ice. Nothing says “I’m an abusive parent” than angrily slamming hockey sticks against the boards during practice.
5. Give the player/parents feedback throughout the season on the player’s progression. This doesn’t mean nit picking a few mistakes in a game. If they are not making mistakes, they aren’t challenging themselves.
6. Parents are not subservient to you just because you have a whistle and a $10 embroidered patch on your jacket. Remember for the majority of the teams, the parents are the consumer. They have other choices, but wanted their kid to play for the team that you coach. Respect and appreciate it.
7. Other than one or two dads, no one wants to hear about your playing “career” unless you played in the NHL. Remember that a career is when you earned a sustainable living off of it. Parents are eye rolling after hearing about how you did for the 2nd, 3rd, or 10th time.
8. Mistakes should happen in practice. This is where kids push themselves. If they are not pushing themselves, they are not progressing at the rate they should.
9. Do not repeat a drill only when your kid screws up. It tells the other players you only care about how well they are doing.
10. Do not discuss a players development with any other players parent. Word spreads quickly.
11. Do not be the center of off-ice team activities. Be a parent, let the other parents organize tournaments, team functions, dinners. This is not your time to shine.
12. If a player leaves a team, wish them luck and move on. It’s the same when you cut a player, it just wasn’t the right fit at that time.
13. Know when it is time to let someone else coach your kid.
14. You are a parent like every other parent whose kid is on the team. Your job is to make good memories for the kids.
15. Remember, it is a kids game.