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We've all been there. Wondering how best to engage a dad coach to be sure his bias and focus on his kid doesn't detract from developing other players? For context, my bender plays on a tier 1 team where the coach never adjusts the lines, positions, game play, etc. (even if winning/losing by a lot). He is clearly there as his bender wouldn't make the team otherwise, and to make matters worse, always plays him first line with the top players (probably to take the focus off his kid's lack of skill).
You are going to have to suck it up. That scenario you described happens on almost every team unless you are lucky enough to get onto a team where the coach's kid is one of the better players.
In my experience, this is a no-win situation. If the coach plays his kid where he doesn't belong, telling him otherwise will only hurt your kid. The coach may very well further bury your kid for saying anything. I've seen this happen. You have to suck it up unfortunately and maybe look to find a new team in the future.
Whoa. Don’t say anything about coaches kid. Positive or negative. He knows very well where his kid is on the talent depth chart. Coaches are very sensitive. Better off saying nothing and find another club.
Choose wiser next season and investigate and coaching assignments prior to signing.
There are a small percentage of dad coaches that just don't realize what they are doing. Just like parents.
Complaining to the coach is rarely a good idea. Find another team.
Don't bother saying anything as nothing will change and it will create an uncomfortable situation for all. He either knows what is going on and is overlooking it, or, he is blind to it. Ask yourself this, Is he a good coach for the other players? Are they developing? If both are yes then why bother getting involved. If the answer is no you need to either go to the director, who probably knows, and ask what the plan is and lay it all out there. Otherwise, just move on.
Every organization has coaches with kids that probably shouldn't be on the team. If it is 1 of 14 kids then just let it go, providing the boys/girls are developing. It really doesn't matter that much.
News flash. The OP is probably a loser dad and his kid is ugly.
What the f@*k is wrong with you guys? Just cut OP some slack and let them work through it. Some of us have been down this road and it is brutal to watch and a waste of a year. Just square it away for Bantam minor and all will be fine.
Go around and ask about the 2010 Elite Islander team for years 2019-2021. By the time they ran a decent coach out, but a Daddy knows best coach as well who overplayed his child. 5+/- good hockey players left the team to play elsewhere almost all at once. Unfortunate, but not the only story of its kind, in any year.
Talk to other coaches before you child joins the team and be direct with the coach about his gamesmanship and development. There are some very good Dad coaches out there. Do your best to find one. That's all you get until Bantam's
We had an alcoholic narcissist for a head coach, a drunk assitant coach and a coach that wasn't a drunk but made sure his kid was overplayed. One more coach that helped out and was great and they ran him out of town. A bad situation got even worse. But it was close to home!