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Re: Dealing with daddy coaches

There are a small percentage of dad coaches that just don't realize what they are doing. Just like parents.
Complaining to the coach is rarely a good idea. Find another team.


Re: Dealing with daddy coaches

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There are a small percentage of dad coaches that just don't realize what they are doing. Just like parents.
Complaining to the coach is rarely a good idea. Find another team.


To be fair, we have also had some really great dad coaches over the years regardless of their kid's skill (the majority have been good). Just not this one who is clearly there to extend his kid's time on what is otherwise a quality team. I guess I'm annoyed because they are now at an age where there is a clear separation between players who want to compete and develop their game, and those that are just there for fun or appease a parent (but clearly don't care about improving).

Re: Dealing with daddy coaches

Don't bother saying anything as nothing will change and it will create an uncomfortable situation for all. He either knows what is going on and is overlooking it, or, he is blind to it. Ask yourself this, Is he a good coach for the other players? Are they developing? If both are yes then why bother getting involved. If the answer is no you need to either go to the director, who probably knows, and ask what the plan is and lay it all out there. Otherwise, just move on.

Every organization has coaches with kids that probably shouldn't be on the team. If it is 1 of 14 kids then just let it go, providing the boys/girls are developing. It really doesn't matter that much.

Re: Dealing with daddy coaches

Man up
Don't bother saying anything as nothing will change and it will create an uncomfortable situation for all. He either knows what is going on and is overlooking it, or, he is blind to it. Ask yourself this, Is he a good coach for the other players? Are they developing? If both are yes then why bother getting involved. If the answer is no you need to either go to the director, who probably knows, and ask what the plan is and lay it all out there. Otherwise, just move on.

Every organization has coaches with kids that probably shouldn't be on the team. If it is 1 of 14 kids then just let it go, providing the boys/girls are developing. It really doesn't matter that much.
That is what I figured. And good point about 1 kid out of 14. Unfortunately he is not great for most if not all of the other 14, and in some ways enforces bad habits that have carried over from younger ages (coast to coast solos, odd man rushes without passing, etc.). I think he is just out of his depth for this age group and skill level. I don't think the director cares either, but worth a chat so thanks for the suggestion. Luckily the asst. coach is solid and invested in the other players, so we will probably ride it out this season and move on.

Re: Dealing with daddy coaches

Man up
Don't bother saying anything as nothing will change and it will create an uncomfortable situation for all. He either knows what is going on and is overlooking it, or, he is blind to it. Ask yourself this, Is he a good coach for the other players? Are they developing? If both are yes then why bother getting involved. If the answer is no you need to either go to the director, who probably knows, and ask what the plan is and lay it all out there. Otherwise, just move on.

Every organization has coaches with kids that probably shouldn't be on the team. If it is 1 of 14 kids then just let it go, providing the boys/girls are developing. It really doesn't matter that much.
Witnessed similar situation but the coach was a goof and manipulated his minions which made a rotten environment.

Re: Dealing with daddy coaches

News flash. The OP is probably a loser dad and his kid is ugly.

Re: Dealing with daddy coaches

What the f@*k is wrong with you guys? Just cut OP some slack and let them work through it. Some of us have been down this road and it is brutal to watch and a waste of a year. Just square it away for Bantam minor and all will be fine.

Re: Dealing with daddy coaches

Man up
What the f@*k is wrong with you guys? Just cut OP some slack and let them work through it. Some of us have been down this road and it is brutal to watch and a waste of a year. Just square it away for Bantam minor and all will be fine.
STOP trying to get on 'the' team and instead find the 'right' team (for your child). You knew it at tryouts. It was obvious daddy coach player was far below the rest, yet you (and the OP) chose to ignore it for the glory of 'the' team. Now it's time to pay.

Re: Dealing with daddy coaches

Go around and ask about the 2010 Elite Islander team for years 2019-2021. By the time they ran a decent coach out, but a Daddy knows best coach as well who overplayed his child. 5+/- good hockey players left the team to play elsewhere almost all at once. Unfortunate, but not the only story of its kind, in any year.

Talk to other coaches before you child joins the team and be direct with the coach about his gamesmanship and development. There are some very good Dad coaches out there. Do your best to find one. That's all you get until Bantam's

Re: Dealing with daddy coaches

We had an alcoholic narcissist for a head coach, a drunk assitant coach and a coach that wasn't a drunk but made sure his kid was overplayed. One more coach that helped out and was great and they ran him out of town. A bad situation got even worse. But it was close to home!