Thank you so much. I already messed up and text him today. :( ugh its sooo hard. I am really trying to find a job and refind myself. I agree with what you are saying and you must not need someone to be happy. Its all very confusing to me and I always thought I would be married one time and its so confusing when the one you love more than anything can hurt you so badly. I need to get strong again and I really appreciate the advise and will try and make it through this 30 days. Its hard because my family is far away and I feel so alone especially with no job. I thought I had a lot of friends but realized through this they were just good weather friends and really don't have anyone to talk with. I am thankful for this site. Once I find a job hopefully I can go back to the councelor for help.
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It does get better even if just for 1 day, dosen't seem like much but 1 day is better than none and then 1 day turns into 2 and so on and so on. Email me if you would like, gingerbloxom@yahoo.com I am also alone I have 1 son who is autistic and a mother in the nursing home, I know how you feel, I did not want my divorce either, but it happened, and I have struggled, I took these ladies advice and yesterday was the best day I have had in 1 year, and this past week was the hardest week Ive had in one year, My emotions go from being crazy into I can make it.
Ginger was just thinking about you and hope you are having a strong day today. Your one day at a time is golden because its funny each day makes a difference. Makes me sad that any of us have to go through this. Have a good night.
I had another question If you have ever been in this situation or faced with divorce do you think its strange I still wear my ring if we are separated. He is not wearing his. :(
Do what feels comfortable. I have had times (months) with it off just to put it on again...just to take it off again... Now I keep it on because I am not looking for anyone else and I don't want anyone at work noticing or gossip starting, I figure when the divorce is final the feeling of taking it off for the last and final time will give me closure.
I think what you said makes total sense. Having it on feels like a security blanket noone can judge or ask you questions. Sometimes I get sick and when I get home I throw it on the table since he broke his vow to me. :( My husband said he filed by mail and is waiting for a case number but that was 3 weeks ago so every day I wonder is someone going to serve me or will he show up and say sorry. :( My life is really in space and I have no closure either way or can't heal. Thank you again.