DO NOT go thru this without an attorney!!!! My ex lied about hidden income, stole items from the house by hiring a professional thief and called the police to get me in trouble, when I minded my own business.
MEN ARE VICIOUS IN DIVORCE, MANY. If your ex was emotional/immature or angry then move out of your apartment and seek family support. Get a lawyer to handle everything. I was abused because I didnt have the money til too late in the game! Do NOT trust or expect kindness from him. Also, do not contact him at all. Men will use this against you. Sever all financial ties immediately--beneficiary info, insurance etc. God bless

RUN to an attorney. Get one that specializes in divorce. I've fired one, interviewed a couple of others and have finally found one that is doing the job for me. I'm having to pay more to get the job done right, though.