thank you all. I do revel in my son's imagination...I Love hearing him with his imaginary family and friends. Good advice about playing into it...I don't want him to lose his imagination....I just don't want him to lose himself to it and forget how to voice his true life feelings...I talked with him just a moment ago about how when you love others, you want to tell them your feelings and when they love you, they want to hear your feelings whether it is good or bad feelings...this way we know how each other is on the inside and we can better help one another through hard times and better celebrate through good times. I asked him how he felt about his dad not being in our home any more and he said "fine" I said, "use another word for me, fine is a good word but I want to hear a different description." He said, "good." I then asked him if he was using these words because he didn't know what else to say or if that was how he really felt...He said that that was how he was really feeling. Halloween night, he looked at me and said, "we need a new dad."
I told him no, that his dad loves him and that no matter what, he would always be his dad. That his dad just doesn't know how to talk about his feelings and some people, when they don't know how to talk, they think running away is the only way to fix it. I told him that running away never solves the problem...sometimes it only makes it worse. I told him that his dad was having problems with his feelings and that was why he left. That it was not his fault and that we both (mom and dad) still love him and always will. He then asked me, "am I going to be alone?" I said "No way baby, I will be here with you no matter what, I will never run away and you will have me as long as I live."
But I am still not sure. I keep calling this place here in my area that is supposed to call me back for an intake on counselling...they haven't called back. My ex took us off his insurance and we have no funds or health care. I am so hurt and angry...I want to cry...in fact I do. My ex is a stone wall...no emotion. I feel like a hornet in a jar that he is shaking...ugh~
thanks for listening.

You're son is 8 so I'm assuming there is access to a school guidance counselor. I have utilized them and they have been EXTREMELY helpful helping my kids through rough spots. They can often point you in the direction of outside help as well. Just call the school and ask to speak to the guidance counselor.

It's just not fair our innocent children have to suffer so much. Prayers for you both...and hugs.

thank you Becky, I homeschool but he has a school that he goes to on Wednesdays so, I will look into their facilities and see if they have anything available. I have tried to contact the Ace program trice and still....no call back :(

First I want to say GOOD FOR YOU!! That was a great way to express to your son how sharing is good. You didn't put Daddy down you just told the truth in a way a 8 year old can handle it!
Second...( I bold because this is very important info) CALL YOUR INSURANCE COMPANY!!!! HE HAS NO RIGHT TO TAKE YOU OFF INSURANCE YOU ARE MARRIED! My ex did the same thing, I called his employer and asked for the HR department and told the lady what was going on ( divorce not final) and told her that if I was not put back on the insurance policy i would be filing charges. I was back on the insurance with in the hour. Legally he can not remove you with out divorce papers. The courts will MAKE him pay for your sons insurance, First thing Monday morning call the court house in your area and ask for a number where you can file for child and spousal support, go file ( in PA it is free, I don't know about other states) Call his employer and the insurance company and explain that he walked out on you and cancelled your policy illegally. FIGHT until they put you back on. He can get into a lot of trouble for this. My ex was SOOOOOO P*SSED when he found out he cannot take me off his insurance, heck he can't take me off his insurance for 6 months after the divorce is final because I have to have insurance and medical assistance take 6 months after filing to get, I have Chron's and can't go that long with out.
I am so sorry you are going through all this at once. Some men are such cowards.
I'll pass on a piece of advice that I got from my sister in law...write EVERY THING down. I have a file on my lap top "List of Events" and I write everything that happens, everything my ex says to me down. Don't think you will remember it all, you won't there will be to much. Your brain will over load. Write dates, times, phone calls anything your son says down. It will be helpful when you see an attorney.

Wish I had a dollar for every hour I spent documenting... Probably wouldn't have to file bankruptcy.

Right I have 24 printed pages not to mention the ones still on my laptop. Didin't do me a bit of good because my judge is "pro father" but it has helped other people that I know...

yeah, I am writing quite a bit...but all the things that happened in the first week are so blurry...Wish I had a tape recorder for those moments. I am still trying to write them down.
Day 5 with no communication from ex but tonight my son is going to spend the night at my ex's parent's house...he used to spend the night over there monthly and they want to see him...I am sure that he will see his father there as well since his father lives across the river at his grandmother's house... but with such a stunted emotional personality that my ex has, I am starting to worry about the negative effects it might have on my child. I don't want him going anywhere with his father though...I have full temporary custody and want to voice that opinion. I don't want my ex taking him to see his dad...my ex's estranged father is crazy...funny how, after six years of silence with his father, he reconnects with him then weeks later, leaves his family...kind of like what his father did.

Note to self, get a tape recorder! my brain can't hold everything it is trying to hold :(

Not sure if I would let him go to in laws.......that how my ex took my kids and refused to give them back...his b*tch of a mom helped him. "Oh please let me see the boys, I miss them" so i did and then she gave them to ex...2 weeks I didn't hear from or see my kids.
I got one (recorder) at Radio Shack. Best $20 I spent, helps me remember everything. If I don't have time to write it down right away I will record what ever it is I need to write down on my way to work in the morning or before I go to bed at night. When my kids are asleep or not around, I keep it in my purse just incase I need it for pick up s and drop offs. That is when my ex gets nasty. He baits me in front of the kids. Now I just hit record as soon as I open my door.