What I do know-and have uttered so many times-is that no one truly knows what has gone on unless they have lived under your roof. My father-in-law was sure my stbx should leave me, that I was horrible to live with. Stbx moved in with his dad, and in the last couple of months he has been much kinder to me on the few occasions I have spoken with him. I'm guessing he may see that perhaps his boy isn't so perfect after all. Hang in there. I know it's very hard.