I had that type of relationship The flea would come to pick up my son and sleep with me, drop off my son and sleep with me. He would get out of work to come visit me, and all the time after leaving my house he would go to big foot. I was thinking he cared about me. That made me feel very secured. He was here but, he wasnt here. Until I found out he was living with her. I put a stop to it and he is longer allowed to come into my house.