I am usually a person who is in favor of trying to work it out so the child has both parents in his life to support and guide him. But in this case, I say go to court and take care of it now. "SAFETY" is always a first issue with children and from what you have stated, He does not seem capable of being a responsible parent. If you wait for him to just go away...the problem will still exist. He can always come back or may choose to not go away this time. If you go to court and put up a safety net of protection you will feel like you do not have to always be looking over your shoulder. If, by some chance, he does change in the future, then he can go to court and work something out to be in his child's life when he is more responsible. Do what is going to make you and your child feel safe.
Thank you. After she was born CPS showed up checking me out (I have nothing negative in my past) they decided to put a "safety plan" against him for the first month of her life they investigated him said he "kinda passed his drug test" (it showed opiates and amphetamines) the CPS officer advised I try to keep him away from her. I'm living with my mom, I'm currently not working so I can spend time with my daughter and the only lawyer I can afford is legal aid...I've never missed one of baby's doc appts. shes obviously healthy and had all of her shots...none of my family has been in any trouble where as his (that he lives with) are all known drug addicts and been in and out of jail...I would hope a judge would take this into consideration but I'm worried I'll get one that can't see him for the dangerous man he is...
Do things legally this way he cannot come back and fight you. If you think he won't...he will. Mine came back when he sobered up and now I have 50/50 custody. Had I done it earlier it would have been easier for the courts to decide I was the responsible parent but because he's sobered up and did AA they found no fault in him. I worry every time my kids are with him theat he"ll slip. He's done it inthe past so I know he"ll do it again.
Get sole custody. DO it now while you can prove that he is unfit. then like susan said if he sobers up and is ready to be a parent then you can go from there. You and your daughter's safety is the only thing that matters at this point.