I have been there, I was pregnant with our son when he was sitting in my living room talking on the phone with the flavor of the year, making plans on how he had found the perfect house out in country, I stayed with him for 7 more yrs. This last one, is a co-worker, I threw him out and he went on a victim vent, he has told every one that I was fat and never took care of myself,(he is also fat) and a lot of other things. We can change for ourselves but not for any one else. I have done so many things different now that he is no longer with me. I have found out how many other woman have been through this marriage and how dumb I was to put up with all his lies.

I would say don't look for answers, look forward to a life you can live without the lies, those are the one that hurt more. Take care and keep us posted.