We are ALL statistics one way or another but we can choose which group we want to be in.
And for all those ladies feeling the guilt of not staying for the childrens sake heres another statistic. Two women a week are killed by their partner /former partner here in the UK.
I work with children who have lived in abusive homes and have now left. Not one of them wants to revert to their 'old' life.
Ivy, it is right to leave when the relationship is abusive or has broken down. The children will pick up on anything, so rather be in a calm place where you can heal together rather than trying to prop each other up through a daily battle ground.
I lived with a man for 20yrs that had affairs every 4-5 yrs. My daughter who is 19yrs old has had father issues since she was 8yrs. Now that she is older she has told me what took me so long to leave her father. Now through her schooling she is dealing with her father issues. It is good that you and your daughter communicate, and it is good that you are thinking of her, think on how much more happy she will not seeing you go through all the things you are going through. My kids have told me, they are happier now that dad is not home anymore. Take care and keep us posted.