Re: don't know what to do he's leaving me homeless jobless and familyless
the divorce was finalized today they granted us both joint custody im still living with him im planning on leaving in a week or if he kicks me out sooner im probably going to go to a womans abuse shelter and hopefully they can help me find a job or at least get training for one its so hard to go through this its the most painfull thing ive ever went through in my entire life im scared of what lifes going to throw at me next i just feel like hiding in a little corner for the next 10 years he said if i want to stay i pretty much have to surcumb to slavery heres a post of his rules he made up for meBrads Rules
1. No Friends of any kind
Friends that are girls are considered *****s
Friends that are boys are considered people who want to get with me
2. No family of any kind his family doesn’t like me and my family are bad people
3. The only people that are allowed to be considered family to me are Him, Clyde, Reece and Jazzmin
4.No crying around him it just makes him angry and disgusted
5.No snuggling, touching, or holding him while he’s trying to sleep
6.No arguing because he’s always right I’m always wrong
7.He can do whatever he wants when he wants and I’m not allowed to be lonely, sad, or upset while he’s gone or when he get’s back or have an opinion of why he shouldn’t go
8.I’m not allowed to be seen in public with him because I’m just an embarrassment
9.I’m not allowed to know what he’s doing because it’s none of my business
10.These are the rules I must follow if I want to stay with him and Clyde
is it worth staying is there a better life for me out there or is it worse
Re: don't know what to do he's leaving me homeless jobless and familyless
They say grass is always greener-I'd say in this case the grass is flourishing on the other side. The trip to get there isn't always an easy one. In fact it's quite painful and difficult at times. But living in that home with those expectations-who can live like that? I think it's a good idea to check with the woman's shelter and see how they can help you. Set your goals, in baby steps, and move forward. Some days you feel like it's 2 steps forward and 3 steps back. But with each small goal you accomplish, you will begin to feel empowered and reaching your next goal will be easier. YOU CAN DO THIS. We're here for you. Keep posting and letting us know how it's going.
Re: don't know what to do he's leaving me homeless jobless and familyless
Are you kidding? I really HOPE you are joking when you ask if there's a better life or worse! Did you read your list? Did he really say that??? That's nuts! Um, yeah, there really IS a better life out there for you, a much much better and happier life! Don't be afraid. Well, let me rephrase that, have courage. Even if you are afraid of the unknown, just take the chance and go. Things will fall into place, they always do. So much joy is waiting for you, go get it!