Thanks, Ladies. I do have a lot of faith, and have had some pretty amazing spiritual experiences. If it weren't for my faith I couldn't get out of bed, put one foot in front of the other or function in any other way. You all know how it is...sometimes it just piles up on you and you don't know where to start cleaning up the mess.

Becky I am so sorry you are having to deal with this. I to have a son with problems. In my case my son is an adult and his problems have gone on far to long and gotten more serious. (he is OCD with major anxiety to the point that he doesn't live a normal life). Husand never wanted to face the problems and help him and I made the mistake of waiting for him to step up. (yeah I know, I feel like a failure as a mother to this child, my precious son who truly has a beautiful spirit.) Now, it is undecided but I may be left to deal with his issues by myself.
I can tell by all your posts that you are a strong woman. You will make it through this and your son will too with your help. Keep your faith, pray for even more strength, and look toward a brighter future. I will continue praying for you too as I pray for all the wonderful strong ladies here.

It helps so much to hear from the wonderful women on this site. Thanks.

In regards to your being a failure as a mother...it is so hard with some of these issues to know what to do. If I didn't work in a school system I'm not sure I would have known where to find the resources. We do the best we can, make the decisions that we think are the best at the time. Don't beat yourself up. Be there and do what you can now. Love him unconditionally. Whether he shows it or admits it, he knows.