I am so sorry to hear what is happening in your divorce. I was lucky, if you can call any of this lucky, my ex wanted to be with the OW so bad he would sign anything also my lawyer was a woman and she had been cheated on and divorced also. She was the best one to have because she knew exactly how I felt.
I get my full allamoney until I can officially retire at 65 and then he still have to pay me half of his military retirement. He also has to pay for my medical insurance and dental insurance....for ever!!! After he read the papers he was really mad that the following line was in there: even if Bridget gets remarried Cliff will continue to pay spousal support" He said thats not right so all I had to do was say, "Ok lets start the paperwork all oveer again" He said no I will sign them. I would love to fall in love with a great guy and send the ex an invitation with a little reminder that my new husband and I will be using his spousal support money to take nice vacations with.
I just want to see him suffer even a small fraction of what he has put me through this last year.
Good luck with your divorce and I hope the judge sees the light and gives you your fair share.
Bridget

Bridget, how did you get it in your divorce paper that he has to pay for your medical insurance? That is my big worry, when the papers are final I will be out of medical insurance and I have a serious illness which will leave me high and dry. One treatment is over 7000 and I have them every 8 weeks.....
Oh and his Arm,y retirement? My ex receives a Medical Retirement from the Army and I am hitting a road block on that as well...