I am hoping to avoid being in your shoes, but it's not looking very promising on my end, either. At least your stbx looked ridiculous in front of everyone. Jerk will look good to others. He can sell himself well, and he lies so well even he believes what he is saying! Jerk is mad that I'm relocating, but I'm not even going very far. Don't know exactly where, but closer to my family, which is less than 45 minutes away. He commutes farther than that to work! He wanted me to stay in this house, just down the road from him so he could continue to control my life. He is continuing to control every situation he can. He wants "his time" with the kids but when they are there they spend most of the time watching TV. He does what he does to look good to others. It isn't fair. And it's my kids that are paying the price. Keep us posted on how it's going.