After Jerk left he called all the time wondering about different things, things I had always taken care of. It's been over a year now, and he tried that just the other day...he e-mailed me a legal question regarding visitation. Hey, when he pays me what he pays his attorney I'll answer that question. Until then, he can do his own research. But he knows that I've done my research and I'm up on everything I can be.

I can't imagine how stressful it is to live as you are right now. You just keep right on posting here and we'll keep right on listening.

I think we as woman have the instinct to take care of men. Once we leave them, we can't just turn it off. I guess we take over for their own mothers. How do we turn off the mother instinct for the JERKS we married.

You feel bad because you are a decent and kind person. You want to do the right thing for you this time, but you want to do it in a decent way. When you get some distance between you I am sure you will get yourself organized and in a better frame of mind. But whatever you are doing or feeling, we are always here to listen and encourage you. Hang in there.