Well, my 9 y/o and my ex and I go to therapy once a week and everything is brought up there. How he talks bad about me and any arguments he starts. Also the karate instructor has witnessed him starting an argument and being loud and yelling in front of the kids. My 9 y/o is really affected. A few things he's said is that he feels very torn and wants to cut himself in half with a chainsaw so everyone would just be happy. Also, after the badmouthing started he told me , Ya know Mom, I'm not stupid, I'm not. I know Daddy wants me to hate you and I just want you to know that I don't. His behavior is affecting them very negatively...