The same thing here...my STBX called to apologize a little over a week ago, then called to say that he cared about me and wants me to be happy...even if we didn't have 4 kids, he would still want to help me. Well, just found some info that shows he is still trying to get back with the college girl he cheated on me with. Men who cheat are liars. Period. They will say and do anything to make themselves feel better, look better...not be the "bad guy". I have finally hit the point that I am ready to move forward with divorce...I need him out of my life.

Dear Terrel, My God four kids. You'll own him before this is through. Do this smart. It is so painful to be betrayed like that. Get a lawyer now. I admire you for being welling to take the next step. Let's see how helpful he plans on being when he gets hit with the divorce. Put on the gloves because your going to need them. What is wrong with that college girlfriend to break up a family with four kids. Unfortunately if not her it would have been someone else. Protect yourself and your babies. Try and have a happy Easter. This site is very helpful so post as often as you feel like it. There is a wealth of support here!

Depending on the type of guy your ex truly is, his apologies could be sincere or they could be complete crap. Follow your intuition on this one. My ex begged and pleaded and told me had had changed and less than a week later he continued his destructive behaviors that drove me away in the first place. They don't change for you, they change for themselves and typically they don't think there is anything wrong with themselves to begin with so.....just be smart and be safe.