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Re: Where will the strength come from


For you I pray that God will give you the strength and wisdom to make the right decisions, and that those deicsions will save your marriage.

Could you write one marriage issue and resolution in a simple form? Such as:

Problem: I want more say about the money
Solution: I get my own bank account and some money gets put in there each month.

Maybe make it something he can just say yes or no, without having a disucssion. If you can agree on one thing to start and he sees that it isn't so terrible, maybe he will be willing to work on others that are more complex. Good luck. Keep us posted.


Re: Where will the strength come from

You are in my prayers Kathleen.


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Kathleen, I will also be praying for you to be able to work things out. I so hope you can make it happen!

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I'll think positive thoughts for you Kathleen. Youre so right that although seems are great on the surface, much lies underneath that needs to be resolved if its going to work. If not, than its better to end it now rather that start all over again down the line.

Best of luck speaking to him. I hope it works out the way you want it to.

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Thank you all so much for the kinds thoughts and ideas about how to handle this. Time will tell. You all are such a wonderful support system and a wealth of wisdom. For this I am very greatful.

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If you stop the divorce, nothing will have changed. Is he willing to get therapy and you also?

What are the specfic problems? Does he think he has issues/problems? Is he willing to try to change?

I stayed for 31 years.....The Verbally Abusive Relationship saved my life and sanity.

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Kathleen, you can tell your lawyer that you want to put the divorce on hold for a while. You won't be the first person who has done this. Don't close the door on the possibility of divorce, just hold off for now.

I'm trying to recall what had happened when you first came on this forum. IIRC, it had to do with him hiding money. Is this correct?

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Hi yes he hide over 100,000 from me and had me living just above povery level with 1,000,000 in the bank. Go figure. I am not named on any of the accounts and had no idea there was this much money until he had to provide the information to my lawyer.