Sometimes the damage done by the ex runs so deeply into all areas of our existance. Three years is a long time to have to clean up his mess. Just know you are a strong women and will get through all this in time. I am concerned about your job. Did he or his other women cause problems with your job? Maybe it is time to change that as well. Start completely over with everything. I of course have no idea what you do and whether or not this is possible. Just know their are others on this site who have suffered as well in every area of their lives and somehow created a new happier, healthy life for themselves out of the ashes left by their ex's. Keep posting as these women are very supportive and helpful.

Crazy how it works. You're the one that's Sleepless in St. Louis, but he should be the one that is sleepless! I have been unable to maintain my good credit. I always had much better creit than Jerk, and now because of $h/t he pulled I am left unable to borrow a dime. I decided to take a hit on my credit and be able to manage month-to-month. It wasn't what I WANTED to do, but what I HAD to do. However, my job is as secure as any jobs are in this economy. So what's up with that? The job?

I would agree with you that the divorce process is unfair. There is no consideration for what brought us to this point in the first place. It does matter what brought us here and I believe it should be considered. Hang lin there. Let us know how you're doing.