Dear Alone, I too feel like I need him in my life. He actually wants me to be friends with him and live with her. I just can't be his friend as long as he is with the OW (I have many other words for her). If he were to leave her and get a new girlfriend, someone that had no part in breaking up our marriage I could be friends with him, but not the way it is now. He has told me that he wants it all, her, me and everything. That will not happen. I will not be second best in anyones life. But with that said it is so hard not to email him or call him, but I am trying my hardest not to do that again.
I know we will all be ok and get through this time but it is no fun that is for sure. I just want to see in the future about a year and make sure I am still ok. Hang in there, we will all get through this.