I agree wwith the other women, Get out now. It will only escalate. They always feel bad and say their sorry, untill the next time and you could be hurt much worse. Even if you have to go to a shelter for a time and maybe talk him into getting help. It just may wake him up to what he is doing. Take care and good luck.

GET OUT

He's dangerous. Get out now.

I've been there. I was lucky to get out alive.

I'm glad to hear from you, Abbey. I've been wondering how you are doing. Wish it were better news, though. Stay safe. You can't keep your son safe if you don't take care to keep yourself safe, too. Please keep us posted.

Thanks for the replies ladies,

no internet at house so can only respond from work.

I stopped taking the prozac two weeks ago and I am much clearer in my thinking now.

I want him to leave the house as he should have done right from the start, I refuse to be homesless while he loses the only stable thing in my and my sons life.

Thinkgs are tense and I think he knows its him or me, I swear to Almighty if he so much as pushes me I will call the police. I am hoping he leaves voluntarily, he knows exactly what he faces if he loses his temper again.

You are right in all you say and over a computer it is hard to explain or desribe everything. I did call the police in the past and he knows I wont hesitate if there is a next time.

I refuse to roll over for this man anymore and roam around like a lost dog with my child when there is a home that can be saved, the mortgage people have given us a chance, except he cant do it but I can. Im facing financial debt for the rest of my life if I walk out now and it is repossessed, for two years he has called the shots and made good on his promise to ruin me. Im sick to death of it. He swore he would ruin me and he has currently but I'm going to get out of this and he will have no control whatsoever.

I have no recourse to public funds for a solicitor so can not apply for a non molestation order unless something happens.
I am partly unclear why I didnt call the police during the last incident but I think it may have had something to do with the medication because I simply couldnt face any more crap and my son was having such a wonderful time with him it just felt wrong. Im different now, stronger and clearer.

During the weekend he stomped out and stayed out till the next day, it was fabulous being back in my home with my son, chilling having fun in the garden. I think that was also a turning point for me not to have this man bully the path of my life and my sons anymore. I have recently felt exhausted by it all but now Im ready to fight for a life that I actually deserve, just to be left in peace with my son.

If I truly felt my life was in danger I would leave but I know he is far too selfish to give up his own life for a long time in prison. I intend talking to him when he is sober and trying to come up with a reasonable solution. When drunk I will keep out of his way.

Tell you what though ladies this has done me a huge favour in waking me up. I used to doubt myself all the time, wondering if the good out did the bad, thats because my mind and memory played tricks and I forgot a lot of the little insidious things that lay underneath our relationship. He can be the good guy for a few days but ultimately the nasty man is always there and will always undo whatever the good accomplished.

Believe it or not, Im feeling emotionaly lighter than I have for over two years. The emotional roller coaster did me more harm. Now I am at last clear in what I want and what I dont want. That in itself is priceless after all the confusion.

Anyway thanks again for your input Ill be in touch and hopefully one day Ill have some good news for once

Ps, just to add that my sister is moving in so safety is better (his is not guaranteed....).