I don't really have an answer for you, more of an I can relate. My husband told me he wants a divorce but wants me to stay until our kids graduate...roughly 5 years....because that's the "selfless" thing to do. We have separate accounts and a joint account that I also have to ask for money to be put into to get gas or go to the grocery store etc. Sex 3x in 5 years. So I feel your pain and can relate to the horrible co-habitating lifestyle. oh and going on 20 years of marriage this year.

Female Empowerment. Read my previous response. Unhappy and no sex. Non-negotiable. Smh.
By the way, I'm speaking from experience. Married 30 years. Filing for divorce because of multiple affairs. I have no qualms about doing what makes me happy. I deserve it. Cruises, concerts, weekend getaways, whatever makes me feel worthy. Reclaiming myself. 🙏

Get a lawyer. Because of your income, a good lawyer will make him pay for the divorce. Married since 1988, and he has a good job? You need to put on your track shoes and 🏃 to a good divorce attorney. No sex for over 2 years. Now that's a non-negotiable. A good full body massager with multiple functions will take care of that. The BFF Collection. Diva Super Wand. Life-changer. I don't even try to stifle my pleasurable moments. Matter of fact, more pleasing to me when he can 👂me from the other room. 😂😂