I want us to be able to go into mediation representing ourselves. Unfortunately, this is my second divorce. My first one turned into nightmare after the divorce after he remarried and suddenly I was being sued for custody. I dont feel my soon to be ex will be difficult to deal with. He wants his space and likes having a good amount of time to himself without our daughter.
For now, I don't see an issue with him as a parent, but I do feel that may change with time. I want to have our daughter be able to go back and forth for now as she wants and we both equally support her financially. I want Tx standard in place though in case he adds another adult in the mix who tries to encourage problems. In that case, I would fall back on ordered visitation etc if needed.
We have acquired debt that are two structures and land. Neither are very expensive. He values his assets more than anything and would probably take on finishig paying them both off on his own if I agree to give up any rights to them. I would if thats an option. None of that matters to me. It would cause alot of grief if I tried to keep any of that.
So, as long as I leave his money and material things alone, this should go smoothly. From what you've replied, the biggest thing is to go into mediation with our wants already figured out. I will start working on that.
Is there anywhere free online that I can look at what the paperwork looks like?
You know your ex and whether you can trust him.. I live in CA so divorce laws are different here than in TX. I just looked on line and you can probably get forms from the law library or the clerks office. Please make sure you are not giving away the farm. If you give him the properties and still are responsible for the loan that could be a real problem for you. A quit claim deed just assigns the property to him but doesn’t free you from your responsibility for the loan. I would be so careful on what you give up. Prepare for the worst case. You as you know can go back to court on child custody and support. It sounds like he isn’t going to be the caretaker. You are doing this not just for yourself but also your child. .Do it smart. Good luck!