I would advise consulting with a divorce lawyer who does collaborative divorce or mediation. Leaving him with the house while you still are the owner leaves you responsible for debts, liability, etc. on a house you aren't living in. You can write your own simple divorce decree, have it checked by a lawyer and notarized by a legal assistant that would divide things the way you want. This is much less expensive and traumatic than going through the court system which would involve more paperwork, less privacy and less say over how things are divided. And it would give both of you a clear ending and closure.