This is what I keep trying to explain to my husband who initiated the divorce 3 months ago and really wants it to be as quick and smooth as possible. I told him I wouldn’t fight in court and make it miserable for us both because he says he doesn’t love me anymore but I don’t believe him. Together 6 years, he asked me out 4 times and I kept saying no until finally I said yes and then we had a Disney fairytale marriage until covid hit.
I now realize my mistakes, thought it was all him the whole time until a few weeks ago and am dying for another chance a clean slate. Made a grand gesture to try to get one last shot and he said he appreciated it all and accepts my apology but he’s not changing his mind.
I think it’s a huge mistake and it hurts so much to know the problems I’ve caused and that it’s too late now. I can’t change his mind and I don’t think anything will except letting him go and hoping he realizes I’m a good loyal person who just went through a lot of trauma and didn’t take care of my mental health. No cheating, abuse, gambling, kids…nothing. We could reconcile so easily….I’m so sad.
I don't think it's as simple as all of that. People's (mine) feeling change, people change. Sometimes no matter how long you work at it you can't change the way you feel if the love you one felt is gone. I've been in marriage counseling for a really long time, over two years. Yes communication is better. We don't for like we used to. But love is only one sided. At what point do you call it. It's not easy.