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I just want to caution you about putting all of the blame on yourself. There were two people in your marriage. In your self-reflection try not to glamorize your husband’s actions, rather try to remember his role too. Be kind to yourself okay? Water seeks its own level. Work on yourself separately and not in comparison to who your ex is. Sometimes when spouses know each other’s triggers they can exploit them and I think you know deep down whether he might have done some of that.
Not necessarily… I am in the same boat as the poster. My husband was honestly a good man, supported me and loved me but my own insecurities and mental health issues completely messed things up. He never did anything to exploit them. It’s not always the man’s fault. I’ve had to accept in therapy that I was the problem and need to work on my self. I regret leaving because the men out here really are a piece of ****. I’ve been in a very abusive and manipulative relationship since being divorced. It’s been the worst relationship of my life. I wish I could turn back time and be married to my husband still.
I feel the same way. How are you dealing with this?
I am so sorry you are going through this. I am in exactly the same boat. All I can say is please seek therapy and work on yourself. It’s what I have been doing. I needed to recognises that I did not know what healthy love looks like, therefore I mistreated my husband because of my childhood trauma. Working on finding out what this is and why it shows up your life as an adult. It is the only way to change behavior patterns and find healthy love. Wish you all the best. You deserve it, try not to beat yourself up