I hope you are doing well now and are re-adjusting. Believe me, if I could turn back the hands of time, I would RUN FAST when I realized that my husband will ALWAYS prefer his family over me! The handwriting was on the wall after our 6th week of marriage, but I had lived such a sheltered life that I thought this would pass. It has not passed after 40 (yes forty) years of marriage. I have chosen to just remain numb from having to take a back seat from the many dysfunctions in this scenario. I will stop short of giving advice, but if I could talk to my 25-year-old self who first experienced this, I would tell her to RUN from this life of misery that is likely to only intensify.