I’ve wondered this, too, as the primary breadwinner. You’re lucky he’s out of the house and your hair. Crazy thought: must you divorce him? While it would surely feel better and let you exhale—what if you just let it ride indefinitely? He’s not pushing it. And you’re not supporting him financially, right? You’ve already made the big investment into the house you’ll have to split—maybe let that work age a little. Does he contribute to your children? Maybe he wins the lotto or gets a decent job along the way. Or maybe he kicks the bucket. Does he eat healthy and exercise?
CC, I agree with you. I hope she takes your advice. You do seem to have a similar problem. Do you wanna share? Btw, I do enjoy talking about this and related topics. Anyone interested should stay in touch through my email (gratefulsoul @ gmail). Sometimes, all you need is to talk to someone.