My first thought is don’t buy the house. He might not follow through with payments if he’s not living there. I’m working on getting a divorce and after hearing all the headaches people go through with “the house” during their divorce, I’m actually glad I didn’t get my dream house with my husband. I think my husband has mental health issues too so I’m sorry you have to go through that.

My second thought or actually question is do you get along with your sister? Would she truly have your back? If so, look at neighboring towns where she lives - who knows there might be one that would be a fit that you just haven’t discovered yet.

I know what it’s like to be so overwhelmed you feel like you can’t make any decisions. But, you can and you will. Things get better and it’ll be okay.