JLM,

Please see my response to the first post. My issue is not with my ex - I realize he can not be trusted given the amount of times he's gone back on his word. My issue is with my friends.

Look whether you like it or not friends with choose sides. I have notices people that use to talk to both us now only talk to him. I thank God though every day they decided to go with him, because I think they are just problems in disguise. Like I said before if you really don't want this people in the middle just let them go. I did and I don't regret it.

My experience...Friends that were his to begin will remain loyal to him. Friends that were yours to begin will remain loyal to you. Any friends you met and jointly bonded with jointly will do everything they can not to get in the middle. This indifference, if you will, is their attempt to stay out of it. Those that were just my friend and that my husband was simply acquainted with have been of the most support. In fact, I have a whole army behind me with these friends. I have found I have many more TRUE friends that I ever realized. These aren't necessarily the people I "hang out" with, but boy they are there when you need them. TRUE friends. You need your own friends. If you have friends that are in a situation where they cannot -or will not- choose loyalty, you may need to let that friendship go. Good luck.

I have found this to be true Becky, my friends before 'us' are still my friends. Often my lifeline.

Oh wait, he doesnt have any friends....we dont have a friend loyalty problem.

I can say though that I have gained a mum in law and a sister in law who love me dearly and whom I love in return. In that score I didnt do too bad.