My experience...Friends that were his to begin will remain loyal to him. Friends that were yours to begin will remain loyal to you. Any friends you met and jointly bonded with jointly will do everything they can not to get in the middle. This indifference, if you will, is their attempt to stay out of it. Those that were just my friend and that my husband was simply acquainted with have been of the most support. In fact, I have a whole army behind me with these friends. I have found I have many more TRUE friends that I ever realized. These aren't necessarily the people I "hang out" with, but boy they are there when you need them. TRUE friends. You need your own friends. If you have friends that are in a situation where they cannot -or will not- choose loyalty, you may need to let that friendship go. Good luck.