This post is basically what I'm going through. My husband decided that he wants a divorce last month and it totally shocked and devastated me. I found out that he had been talking to other girls, ALOT. He said that these girls made him feel wanted and that because I didn't "lust" after him and jump his bones every possible minute of the day, that our marriage is over. I feel like he didn't even give us a chance because he was hardly ever home and with our work schedules and kids we didn't have time together. He tells me now that we have to get divorced first then maybe we can work on restarting a relationship. He said, "Think of it like this, if you build a house and the foundation is wrong you tear the house down and rebuild it". I told him that was bull and that I felt he was pushing to get divorced quickly so he can be with one of his girls waiting in the wings. I have to admit that because I'm still in love with him, I can't say that I wouldn't want to try to rebuild something with him but right now I just don't believe a word that comes out of his mouth. He has not shown any care or emotion towards me so I doubt that he has any thought of being with me again. But he is all about trying to get a booty call out of me. I think he wants his cake and eat it too. He wants to be "free" and single but still be able to call me up and expect me to just have sex with him when he wants. This whole thing has just torn my world apart and I'm just trying to get through each day and do what I need to do for my kids. Just stay strong and do what you need to do for yourself and don't let him con you into anything.