I think we have all been there at one time or another, The Flea(EX) was really nice when he was in trouble, when he was with me, then when all his trouble were over he would turn into the nasty man alive. I knew he had other womans and was willing to look the other way.
You know when a man has another woman, when they are more than friends and when they are just friends. One I always told the flea(EX) a married man can not be friends with a single woman. I am sorry but that is just the way it is. You know there is more to his mood swings, you just don't want to admit it right now. Look into your relationship and you will see. Take care and keep us posted
Please realize that this is said in your best interest.
Just have to say you could have been my ex to a degree. If you really aren't going to give marriage counseling a shot it's time to get out. Things will only get worse over the years until you do. Your kids need to have a chance to see what a happy/healthy relationship looks like. Everyone will be better off.
Do yourself a favor and get individual counseling. You will probably carry these problems with you relationship wise unless you can figure out what you feel is missing.