"I'm going to have to give this one some thought. What's next on the agenda?"
I did have an attorney, but both of our attorneys did a good job of making it as mutual as possible...trying to make it something we could BOTH live with. If his attorney is good, not just powerful, and has ANY ethics, he will do the same as long as you voice your concerns.
I did mediation, big mistake of my life. Even though I think I got the best part, He took a loan and which I was suppose to get half, but he decided he was going to pay for the credit card we had used together, it tuned out to be, he was paying the credit card bills he had with his new Big Foot and wanted to start with a clean slate with her. I was also pushed into giving him the holidays he wanted and how he wanted them. If I could totally do it all over, I would get a lawyer.