I'm not Catholic, either, and do not know the "rules". What I do know is I have a friend that found out a year (or 2) into her marriage that her husband had at one time shaken a girlfriend's baby and caused it serious harm. She moved out the next day, filed for divorce and annullment. She said it cost her an additional $1000 to get the annullment.

I am with the ladies, if everything is under your name ask him to leave. I know in some cases of verbal abuse the police will ask the abuser to get out of the house. Look for an attorney and ask for advice if you are not married just remove him from your home, if you are married just filed. It is sometimes to just move on without that person that is bring you down than to stay with him/her for the wrong reasons. Keep us posted and take care