Yeah, let him think you're an idiot, sometimes that's better! If he thinks you can see right through these things, he might work with his lawyer to make it more cryptic and that will be even more annoying when you can see how hard he tries to trick you. I am grateful that my stbx is not too bright, so figuring out what he is trying to do doesn't take much effort! I hope you can keep it out of court. You are being really kind, not going for more when you can get it! But I understand, if doing so would drag it out longer...yeah, no thanks, just GO. If GF really is pressuring him to hurry up the divorce, I would think it will be to your advantage. You are smart to stick with what you want. I know someone who went into huge debt because she just wanted it DONE. I hope you get your freedom soon!

Jerk is so anxious to be done. First he tried applying a lot of pressure, harassing me about it and bringing it up at very bad times, etc. I got in his face and calmly and quietly said, "Stop harassing me. This is something I will not tolerate. If you have a problem with it, talk to your lawyer." So he went from dumb to dumber and did some other really stupid things like quit paying child support thinking I'd sign anything to get money, quit paying his share of the mortgage thinking I'd panic at the thought of losing my home. It really backfired on him. I didn't react to either of the above items. Didn't bat an eye-never said a word. Then he got word from his attorney that there was a court date set to retrieve back child support and temporary support. He was FREAKED. He didn't think I'd stand up to him I guess (don't know how-I've never been a doormat). So the attorneys were then spending their time and energy-and our money-to work out the temporary issues rather work on the actual divorce. He did NOT want to face that judge. This process really cannot be hurried. Anything with the law, it seems, has its own sweet timeframe.