I am in quite similar situation but you are lucky in many ways. My husband does not care for me, doesnt initiate sex and if we do and of late its been no sex even if i initiate. There is no open hugs or kisses and its come to a state where i cant even stand talking to him already. I feel so used in that i did everything to help him from A-Z helping him to build from zero houses to 10 on his portfolio and now, even if i have to talk to him, i have to say things 3-4times before he really listens. I wanted to walk out many times but just fear the mess of a divorce. If i were to leave this marriage, i doubt i want to leave empty handed and fighting over 10property and a child is going to be real ugly. How or where do i start?